Denied!!!

Grace is officially denied! Just as I thought the insurance has stopped covering today. The Doctor from the insurance company talked to Grace's doctor. After a very long conversation the Doctor from the insurance agreed that Grace needs long term care but says they will not pay for it. It is so completely frustrating. They know she needs help that she can only get at this facility and yet they will not pay. Our insurance has an unlimited benefit for mental health. What a joke, unlimited until they decide they are done I guess. 

We are so overwhelmed by this situation. Talking to Grace this past weekend she even said that she doesn't feel ready to come home. She knows that she needs the help. She wants to get better so that she can come home. My biggest fear is if we have to bring her home that she will be home for a short time before she blows up again and ends up back at UNI. Bouncing her around between treatment centers will slow and back slide her progress. 

I am so desperate. I'd cry, but then I wouldn't get anything done at all. So I just write and share my feelings will people who are reading this blog. LAst month because I was away I didn't post anything. We had almost 500 hits for the whole month. Today alone we have had over 850. SO please keep doing what you are doing. Please share the blog, repost on Facebook, pinterest, twitter and any where else that you can. I feel like the more Grace's story is heard that we will be able to get her the help she deserves. 

I read a story on CNN today about a boy who was able to sneak onto a flight to Las Vegas. In the story the Dad was pleading for help for his son. He said that his family has tried to get the boys bad behavior under control. I felt for this man. I know what it feels like to feel helpless while your child is out of contriol. What made me the most sad was everyone in the comments totally ripping this family and blaming the parents. This was my response. 

I have a child with behavior problems and I have done everything I can for her. My child is in a residential treatment center and we are trying to get her help.  My husband has a good job with insurance. We were promised an unlimited Mental health benefit. My child is nowhere near ready to come home, but the insurance has decided she is no longer their problem, and has quit paying. If we can't find a way to pay then I have no choice but to bring her home. Her care is over $10,000 a month. Tell me how any one can pay for that? I have two other children who are not acting out, so I don't think I am a bad parent. I have a child with special needs and no way to help her. Don't judge these parents. They are desperate and trying their best to get help. The dad is right, if he spanks his child then everyone will judge him and he will be in trouble. What is this family suppose to do?  

I want to share our story because more people need to understand that mental illness is an illness. Behavior problems often fall into this category. Don't judge others, try to help. 

Please keep praying for our Grace!!!